Your first thought may be something along the lines of, 'clearly this is just a disciplinary issue' or a case of over accomodation'. I can assure you, parents of children with sensory integration issues have wondered the same thing. Trail blazing occupational therapists have proved otherwise, and Lucy Jane Miller, in her book Sensational Kids: Hope and Help for Children with Sensory Processing Disorder throughly explains why, this is not a question of discipline. Sensory Integration has a pretty broad umbrella, and depending on what senses are involved, and whether or not they are over responsive or under responsive she lays bare how our often completely overlooked, central nervous system can betray us. It is full of practical tips, but is beefed out as she sets 4 children, and the rhythms of their day in contrast to each other. My heart went out to the totally exhausted, massively spirited parents that attempt to help hush the cacophonic world of their haunted child, or brighten and enliven the worlds of those with sub-normal states of arousal.
Parents of children with sensory integration problems may never be able to engender the dinner culture envisioned by Laurie David, but with the help of occupational therapists and the insight into their children's invisible needs, they can modify that beauty to match their individual household, allowing the message of love to resonate just so.